The Career Path of the Mother of a Special Needs Child...
When
I was a teenager, I wanted to be a physiotherapist. Now that I'm older
and perhaps wiser, I ask myself why I had this aspiration. I certainly
didn't have any direct experience with people with physical challenges.
Seems like a bizarre career path for me to choose.
Later, when deciding what to do for university, I had the application papers in hand to apply to study for a nursing degree, or for a teaching degree. I wimped out on getting the vaccinations I needed to apply for nursing school, and I went the teaching route. 5 years later, I had a BA with majors in English and Psychology, and a Bachelor of Education. I was a teacher. And I planned on getting my masters in Special Education.
But there was apparently another PLAN for me...
Fast forward to 11 years later. I am a (non-practicing) teacher. But, I am also a physiotherapist, a nurse. I am a speech and occupational therapist, and a doctor who specializes in gastric issues and seizures. I am many, many things. I am the mother of a child with significant physical and intellectual disabilities.
Is it possible that something inside of me "knew" I was destined to be a physical therapist and nurse? I think perhaps this is the case.
Today, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children. Two daughters- ages 3 and 7, and a little boy, aged 9. I sometimes forget how old my son Cameron is, partly because is small for his age, and partly because he is developmentally so "young". I've embraced the important role I have as his mother, and in helping show society that there is nothing wrong with being different. Although others may see him as "flawed", we see him as a truly valuable human being who adds great depth to our lives.
Having a son with special needs, has taught me much about myself. He inspires me both personally and professionally- he led me on a completely different career path that I had never imagined. Instead of going back to school and "officially" getting my master's degree in Special Education, I started my own business, with products I designed because of him. Even though I don't formally teach, I am still able to educate others about his disorder, Angelman Syndrome, and to make connections with amazing people I would never had met had I not been his mother.
Yes, I admit that I would prefer to not have to deal with g-tubes, and seizures, and trying to figure out where to fit all his specialized equipment in our small home. And, I've already seen enough bodily fluids to last a lifetime. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm enjoying this career that life planned out for me...
Later, when deciding what to do for university, I had the application papers in hand to apply to study for a nursing degree, or for a teaching degree. I wimped out on getting the vaccinations I needed to apply for nursing school, and I went the teaching route. 5 years later, I had a BA with majors in English and Psychology, and a Bachelor of Education. I was a teacher. And I planned on getting my masters in Special Education.
But there was apparently another PLAN for me...
Fast forward to 11 years later. I am a (non-practicing) teacher. But, I am also a physiotherapist, a nurse. I am a speech and occupational therapist, and a doctor who specializes in gastric issues and seizures. I am many, many things. I am the mother of a child with significant physical and intellectual disabilities.
Is it possible that something inside of me "knew" I was destined to be a physical therapist and nurse? I think perhaps this is the case.
Today, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children. Two daughters- ages 3 and 7, and a little boy, aged 9. I sometimes forget how old my son Cameron is, partly because is small for his age, and partly because he is developmentally so "young". I've embraced the important role I have as his mother, and in helping show society that there is nothing wrong with being different. Although others may see him as "flawed", we see him as a truly valuable human being who adds great depth to our lives.
Having a son with special needs, has taught me much about myself. He inspires me both personally and professionally- he led me on a completely different career path that I had never imagined. Instead of going back to school and "officially" getting my master's degree in Special Education, I started my own business, with products I designed because of him. Even though I don't formally teach, I am still able to educate others about his disorder, Angelman Syndrome, and to make connections with amazing people I would never had met had I not been his mother.
Yes, I admit that I would prefer to not have to deal with g-tubes, and seizures, and trying to figure out where to fit all his specialized equipment in our small home. And, I've already seen enough bodily fluids to last a lifetime. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm enjoying this career that life planned out for me...


As a person who is disabled I think your sons imperfections are what make him simply perfect.
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We have so much in common. It's nice to see another mother live a happy life for her son.
I'll keep reading your pages ! Please keep on keeping on!
Hugs,
terri
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As a mom entrepreneur and a mother of a special needs child I decided that we needed a support group that could incorporate the professional and personal support and advice for us moms who have chose to work from home to care for our special needs child. It's a great group of women, it's free and growing everyday.
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Hello, Our son, Bill, has significant special needs. Long story short he had a virus as a baby that attacked his brain and devastated him. It happened right after his DPT shots which at the time contained a live pertussis vaccine but we won't ever know for sure if that is what caused the damage. He was left unable to walk, talk, or feed himself. He does eat blended food which is wonderful because it means he doesn't need a feeding tube. My husband and I are his primary care givers. We have two older developmentally, how should I say it, normal? children.
I quit my job when Bill got sick to stay home and care for him and was home full time for about 12 years. I am happy I was able to do that and take care of Bill during his sickest time but it was challenging for me not working. Five and a half years ago I found a small ad for a part time work from home position that I applied for, got and four years ago it blossomed into a full time work from home position that I truly enjoy. Who says there isn't Karma
Also important to mention, all three of our children are delightful. I wish Bill didn't have to contend with such a level of disability and I wouldn't wish what happened to my family on any other family but Bill is a gift. Maureen McDonnell
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Thank you for your words. I hear the echo in my heart. Truly, it's a different life, but a very good one. I have a 3 year old in a wheelchair. He has an undiagnosed neurological disorder. I'm so glad that I can be a SAHM for him. Love, bree
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